One of the things I feel us "walkers" take for granted is the freedom to drive. We forget how easy it is to get in and out of a vehicle and how we can do it so quickly. After Ryan got hurt one of the questions was how he would be able to drive again. If you think about it driving is such a blessing. Do you remember when you were younger, before you got your license and having mom and dad drive your butt around. How annoying it was to rely on someone else to get you from point A to point B. For me being a farm kid and living in the country, majority of my friends lived in town, getting my farmers permeant and licenses was the best feeling ever. Now imagine being 26 years old and having the freedom of being able to drive taken away from you. Having to rely on your family or friends to get you around. Not so fun. Driving is a privilege that we take for granted every day.
For Ryan one of the first things he wanted to do after he got hurt was be able to drive again. Ryan did have to retake his drivers test since he would be driving completely with his hands. After doing some research he decided on a lift for his pickup where the drivers seat comes out, lowers down and Ryan transfers on to it and then raises himself back up into his truck. The seat and the tracks it was on took up majority of the back seat and the chair itself was not able to adjust and became pretty uncomfortable. Ryan knew eventually he would want something different. Fortunately for Ryan after his truck was totaled because of my accident, he purchased a new vehicle and decided on a different style lift. He currently now has a box under the driver seat that has a lift. He uses a remote to open the box and out pops a bench. The bench raises up and he transfers onto the bench and then raises himself up to the drivers seat and slides over on to it. Ryan has hand controls under the steering wheel that are connected to the break and accelerator that allow him to drive his truck, and also a steering knob on the steering wheel. For the most part Ryan has his wheelchair in the tailgate and usually someone is around to pull it out for him at work. Otherwise if he goes someplace by himself he is able to take his wheelchair apart and place it behind him in the truck. The lift he currently has tends to have issues when it gets really cold out or really hot out and stops working. If that happens he has to pull himself up into his truck, not the easiest thing to do and is hard on his shoulders, but he gets it done. When Ryan purchases his next vehicle we are looking at a different style lift.
We are also hoping to one day purchase a lift that gets mounted on the flat bed of a truck for farm purposes. This type of lift will actually take Ryan from his truck and raise him directly up into the tractor . Whatever it may be when it comes to making things accessible for Ryan it doesn't come with out an expensive price tag, but the cost outweighs the expense when it gives Ryan the freedom to do things on his own. Here is a video of Ryan getting in his truck. For us Minnesotans in the dead of winter his lift feels like it takes FOREVER to get back down! We hope all of you had an enjoyable weekend!
Its always interesting to see peoples initial reactions when I tell them that my husband is paralyzed, and even more interesting to what question they ask first. Usually it is the curiosity of how he became paralyzed, then wondering what he does for a living. Eventually the question comes up of how he gets around, does he drive, how does he drive tractor and if you travel how does he get on the airplane.
The next time you take a trip that requires an airplane think about how you pack, how you get your luggage from point A to point B, going through security and getting on and off and airplane. It seems so simple when you have two legs that work and can get you to your final destination, little thought goes into these simple actions. For Ryan and myself traveling at times can be very stressful and we have learned to be organized and to simply go with the flow. You learn to ignore the dumb questions from security people like when they ask Ryan to stand up, you learn to ignore the oh so lovely full body rub down you watch your husband go through every time we go through security and you learn to basically put your trust in other peoples hands who have no clue about how to help people in wheelchairs. Once we get through that ordeal and make it to our gate we deal with the stress of usually getting our seats switched and making sure they have the aisle cart available to get Ryan on the plane.
Ryan and I are usually the first people on the plane and the last people to get off. The terminal provides a cart, more like a contraption, for Ryan to transfer onto that is small enough to fit down the aisle of the plane. Most of the time the people that deliver the cart and are suppose to help Ryan transfer have no clue what they are doing. Once they get Ryan to his assigned seat he then transfers himself up and over the arm of the seat and into his spot. Sounds simple enough but it is work and it is usually scary to watch the whole process. We finally get settled and thats when I start to worry about his wheelchair sitting outside of the plane, praying it gets put in the bottom of the plane. When we finally arrive to our destination and then patiently wait for each individual to get off the plane, we repeat this whole process over.
On our trip home from Colorado we didn't have the best experience, we landed and everyone got off the plane and the cleaning people where on it and we still were waiting for an aisle cart. Our flight attendants told us that they have never waited this long for one. The pilot and flight attendants both radio the terminal prior to landing requesting an aisle cart and its also written in the report so there should be no reason on why they don't have an aisle cart when we land. I got off the plane before Ryan and I thought our worst fear was coming true. His wheelchair was no where to be found. Its usually waiting right for us as soon as we step off the plane. Even the flight attendant was panicked about it. What most people don't understand is that Ryan's wheel chair is his legs. You take that away and we are in trouble. Ryan can't use just any old wheelchair. His wheelchair is custom for him. His "legs" cost on average $3,200 and the custom cushion he sits in cost $2,600. Now his cushion travels with us on the plane, in the tractor etc, its made to protect his behind since he doesn't have much padding back there anymore. I would say that this has to be the number one fear of any individual who is paralyzed while traveling. Thankfully they did find his wheelchair and I could breath again but the airline was pretty close to hearing a few choice words from me.
Most of the time they put Ryan to the nearest bathroom on the plane. To us this is extremely funny because well he can't get up to use the bathroom. Usually the bulk head seats work well, and we usually try to get on the side of two seats if possible versus the three seats so we don't have to deal with people crawling over us. Ryan always needs to have an aisle seat to, easiest transfer that way. Since I brought up the bathroom, you might be wondering how that whole situation works. Ryan and I talked about this and felt like people should know so they don't wonder. Ryan can urinate anywhere, obviously privacy is nice to have but just like any man he can go pretty much anywhere. Every person that is paralyzed has a different care routine or different way they go to the bathroom. Catheters and a bottle is what works for Ryan and he plans it out to use the facilities before getting on the plane and right away when he gets off. He usually doesn't drink anything on the plane either. We have had a situation on a longer flight where he did have to go and a very well placed jacket or blanket did the job. When he has to go he has to go. With Ryan's paralysis he has no control over his bladder and bowels and after he got hurt the doctors helped him with his care routine. Timing is key. But his body does tell him in certain ways if its time to go,his legs might get jumpy or his stomach might tighten up and feel hard or he sometimes will sweat. Thats the thing with paralysis, your body finds a way of telling you when something is wrong.
Most people don't understand that there is a difference between handicapped accessible and wheelchair accessible. For wheelchair accessible they need a five foot radius to be able to turn around. Hotels are always an issue especially when it comes to the bathroom. They either have a tub shower and provided the worlds most rickety shower chair to sit on or they have a roll in shower and either have a bench that folds down from the wall or again provide a shower chair. We also need to make sure that the shower head is hand held. Ryan and I have stayed in some not so wheelchair friendly hotel rooms. What makes it even more frustrating to me is that we are in the year 2016, we have ADA law, yet majority of the hotels we have stayed at in the United States have been far from accessible. On our honeymoon we traveled with friends to Mexico. Mexico doesn't have ADA laws like the U.S. has, but so far the resort we stayed at both bedroom and bathroom had the best accessibility versus any of the hotels we have stayed at in the US. Now the grounds on the resort made for some interesting treks but we had plenty of help from our friends and the staff to get Ryan around.
I had plans to video Ryan transferring to and from the aisle cart when we landed back home in Minnesota but with the stress of the situation at the time I chose not to. So we have some photos of what it looks like and also a few of some bathrooms, and interesting situations we have got ourself into. Traveling on wheels can be pretty stressful but its all about the adventure. Ryan actually travels more now being in a wheelchair then he did walking, go figure. There are some perks for being paralyzed and traveling we get to cut in front of everyone at security!
We are back home in our great state of Minnesota and fortunate to have missed the hottest week of the summer. Ryan was in Washington DC for a few days with the Minnesota Corn Growers Association for the National Corn Growers summer annual corn congress meetings. Ryan has been on the state board now for 8 years and he is on the National Public Policy team with the National Corn Growers board. While Ryan was gone, I headed out on a road trip to Breckenridge Colorado with my best friend and her fiancé for their wedding. Ryan made his way back to Minnesota for one day and then took a flight out to Colorado to meet up with me for the wedding.
The first few days of our trip did consist of wedding events and then eventually the wedding but we did get some time to ourselves to experience Breckenridge. I was able to hit up the local crossfit box at Crossfit Breckenridge and experience what it was like to do a WOD at 9,600 feet. Definitely a different experience exerting yourself at that high of an elevation but it was so fun! If you are a crossfitter and are in Breckenridge I recommend you hit up the local box and experience it for yourself. Saturday morning we decided to take a Jeep tour up the mountain and got to see some breathtaking views of the mountains and the town of Breckenridge. Once that was over we made our way down the mountain via a gondola ride and explored the quaint town. This time of year Breckenridge is pretty busy with people visiting and at times was a bit crowded for our liking. We bummed around town, ate some tasty food and just enjoyed each others company. Unfortunately we found that the town of Breckenridge was not the most ADA friendly. Majority of shops had plenty of stairs to get into them. Some I could pop Ryan up and some I definitely couldn't and there were no elevators to be found. Even finding transportation from the top of the mountain to the bottom where town is located became a challenge. Ryan and I both agreed if we knew it would be this difficult we would have drove out ourselves so we could have our own vehicle there. At times it was a bit frustrating but we managed. We even experienced our first Uber ride while we were out there. Coming up in a future post I'll be going more in depth on the difficulties of traveling while in a wheelchair but for now enjoy some of the photos we took of our trip. Happy to be back home in familiar territory!
To our followers out there the Bucks will be a little MIA this week. Ryan and I both will be doing some traveling separately and then will be meeting up later this week in my favorite state for my best friend's wedding. But we will be back next week with a fun new blog post recapping our trip. Also we have had many people ask about how Ryan gets in and out of the farm equipment and how farming works while being paralyzed. Once harvest arrives we will be posting some videos and talking about just that.
So if you are curious to where we are headed follow us on Instagram or our Facebook page to find out. Don't forget to check in next week when I'll be talking about not only our trips, but how travel goes for that hubby of mine. Airports, flying, and taxis all make for interesting situations when it comes to traveling in a wheelchair.
We have been very blessed by the outpouring of love and support we have been receiving about this little blog of ours. We hope and pray it continues to grow and that we can continue to inspire you to live out your life no matter what it may toss at you. We hope you continue to follow our journey and if you are curious about how Ryan does certain things please feel free to email us so we can get your questions answered and post some more fun things on the blog. Thanks again for following, have a great week and weekend! See you all next week!!
Some of you might be wondering if people with paralysis can have children. Yes they can. Of course every situation is different and the routes they go about to conceive children are different. Here is our story.
I didn't think I would be writing about our struggle with infertility so soon on our blog, I always figured I would when the time came for us to start over with IVF. Yesterday I did what every normal human being does when they wake up, check Facebook, check Instagram, check Snapchat and whatever other social media outlet there is. I came across a video on my friend Andrea's page and I wasn't going to click on it but the headline about a couple adopting a new born baby caught my eye. With in minutes of watching the video of this couple talking about their struggle with infertility I was a sobbing mess. I sent Ryan the link and said you need to watch this. He to was a sobbing mess and we talked about how we could relate to this couple so much. I instantly felt compelled to write about our journey, our struggle with starting a family.
Ryan and I were married in 2010 and knew that we eventually wanted to have kids and that the process wouldn't be quick or easy. Our doctors recommend IVF. For the farmers that follow along with us, its not that much different then cattle insemination. The short version of IVF goes like this, they extract Ryan's sperm, I go on hormones to have my ovaries produce more eggs, once there is enough they extract my eggs. They then put Ryan's sperm and my eggs together and let them grow, some are then froze for future use if applicable. Once my uterus is a happy environment they do a transfer and place the embryo or embryos inside. Afterwards you go on more hormones and have another blood draw two weeks later to find out if you are going to be parents or not. Sounds easy enough but its a rollercoaster. Hormones on top of hormones, numerous blood draws, ultrasounds and many doctors appointments. IVF is very much a timed out process, you don't have much of a life while you are going through it because everything is revolved around that. Its not only physically demanding but also emotional draining.
End of fall 2012 we had our first transfer. Two weeks later we got the devastating phone call that it was not successful. Ryan and I were upset of course but a few of the couples we know that had gone through IVF didn't get pregnant until their third try, so we thought that would be us. We tried again right away in 2013,to have transfer number two not be successful. We gave ourself a break after that. End of 2013 we tried for transfer number three, we had three embryos left and we decide all of them would go in, knowing very well that if triplets were to happen well then it would be God's plan. During a routine ultrasound 1 week before the transfer they found a polyp in my uterus, they canceled the transfer and scheduled surgery to remove the polyp. March of 2014 we tried again to yet have our transfer be canceled and another surgery scheduled to remove another polyp. Our doctors recommend trying right away after the surgery to do the transfer to less likely have another polyp form, so we did. Only two embryos were placed because the third did not continue to develop once it was thawed. Two weeks later we called in to the hospital to find out that our transfer was unsuccessful. My heart sank, I remember curling up on my bed sobbing wondering why this was happening, why was God not blessing us with children, why was He not answering our prayers. You start to questions God's goodness for you, hadn't we been through enough. You see all of your friends getting pregnant having babies, or you start seeing more teen pregnancies and you just wonder what am I doing wrong, why am I being punished. Why would God give a baby to someone that doesn't have a stable loving home or who can't financial take care of them. People start to construe your frustrations with jealousy and its anything but that. Nobody can fully understand what you are going through unless they have gone through it. If only I could get pregnant on my own the way God intended it to be. To not have to pay to get pregnant. Then you start to get the comments of oh just adopt, being pregnant is awful enough, then you won't have to go through it. This always coming from the person who has their own children, who has been through pregnancy. We are not opposed to adoption, but back then I felt like that man on the video I didn't want a bandaid baby or a quick fix, I wanted the child that's planned for me.
Not only did our struggle with IVF put a huge strain on us as individuals but us as a couple. We started to drift further apart both being filled with anger and sadness. I felt like God put me on this earth to be a farm wife and a mom. I started to question God's plan for me, wondered what my purpose was, wondered how I could live a full life with out having a child. Wondered how I could live a full life with a spouse in wheelchair who was slowing becoming more of a roommate then my husband. Over this last year Ryan and I have worked through those issues and Ive learned that every baby is a blessing from God know matter how it is brought into this world. Ive learned that I can have a full life and be happy even if we don't have children.
This video that I watched on Facebook gave me a renewed sense of hope. God has a plan for me for Ryan for us, and its all in His timing. I think He laughs at us when we try to do it our way, when our life story has already been written for us. Even through all the pain and heart ache with IVF God was with us, this was part of His plan for us. The difficulty we had with our marriage we both agreed that it was a blessing that God did not give us a child. We simple were not ready to be parents because He knew we a had a much harder road ahead of us to go through. Today we feel ready, our marriage is in the best place it has ever been and when the timing is right we will try over with IVF or if adoption is the path God wants us to go then we will. Some of it has to do with just finically having the money to start over with IVF and some of it has to do with the fact we are just enjoying our time together. Yes its still hard when we see family and friends having babies but we know that God is in control. We will continue to pray and have faith.
So I encourage you to watch this video its 14 minutes long but worth the watch. I also encourage you to share this with anyone who may be struggling with infertility, we've been there it sucks, but we are here for you! Once you start talking about it you find more and more people who have gone through something similar and Ryan and I have learned that all the support you can get is well needed. Trust and have faith!
It was Saturday morning, I was studying for a test for a class in college, the phone rang and it was my brother Casey on the other end. I could hear the panic and worry in his voice. He said Ryan crashed his snowmobile and was being airlifted to St. Mary's Hospital. He knew he had a broken leg, but he just kept saying it was really bad Lauren and that he was sorry. Still to this day I can remember just how my brothers voice sounded, its something I will never forget. I rushed upstairs to tell my mom and with in minutes we were out of the house driving to Rochester. I told my mom that I had a bad feeling that something was going to happen when they left. My brother even tried to convince me to go with, and I said that I wanted them to have some guy time together. On the way down I called my cousin Trudy who immediately started praying on the phone. We arrived to the emergency room and I could hardly get out to the nurse that my fiancé was in an accident. She tried to calm me down and put me in a waiting room. I remember going into the room he was in, seeing all the nurses running around. Ryan was conscious at the time and the doctors asked him to move his feet and there was nothing. My heart sank, this wasn't good, I wondered if Ryan would ever walk again, if he would even survive this.
My brother arrived to the hospital and I could see the fear in his eyes. We asked what happened and all he said is that they were about 5 miles down the trail, he turned his back to look for Ryan and saw his snowmobile rolling. He turned around and found Ryan with his back against a tree. Ryan was conscious and tried to move, my brother told him stay still and that he would get help. Casey ended up having to leave Ryan because he didn't have cell phone service where he was, luckily there was a house not to far back and he was able to call 911 there. Shortly after first responders arrived to help. Ive never asked my brother much about that day, I know its a hard day to talk about and Im sure part of him blames himself for what happened. Ryan doesn't remember the accident but we know he hit three trees, one with his head, his leg and with his back. A freak accident, some poorly marked trails, but there was no alcohol or reckless driving involved.
Once Ryan was moved up to the ICU we were informed of the extent of his injuries. T5 burst, which caused T4 and T6 to pinch on the spinal cord. Cracked C2 and all the ligaments in his neck were torn. Broken femur in his left leg, left lung was collapsed and also a closed head injury. Ryan had surgery the following day to repair his spine, they placed rods in his back, put a halo on and a turtle shell. They also put a chest tube in and placed him on a ventilator. He had another surgery to place a rod in his leg to repair his broken femur. Doctors said he shouldn't have survived his accident let alone survive his surgery. But by the grace of God he did. After the surgery we had to worry about infection, and pneumonia which could possibly kill him.
Ryan was in the hospital from February 23, to the first part of April. He doesn't remember his time in the ICU or in physical therapy. He also doesn't remember his accident but does remember the helicopter ride to the hospital. At the end of May he had his halo and turtle shell removed and returned to St. Marys for the month of June for therapy to learn how to live his new life in a wheelchair. Ryan's spinal cord injury is considered an incomplete spinal cord injury, meaning his spinal cord was never completely severed, just pinched. The area in which Ryan sustained his injury also controls his bodies temperature regulation and he has no use or feeling from mid chest down. It took a long time for his body to complete heal. Ryan went into the hospital weighing about 200 pounds and came out weighing 133. For someone who is 6 feet tall, 133 is pretty small. Ryan's doctors said he would never gain weight back into his lower extremities after they atrophied so bad but he has. Most people when they meet Ryan for the first time wonder why he is in a wheelchair because he doesn't look like the typical paraplegic whose legs can be pretty small. Thankfully Ryan also has put back on weight and muscle and looks like the person I was engaged to before he got hurt. There was a lot of things Ryan's doctors said he would never be able to do again and he has proved them wrong on many. Ryan took his injury head on. He never once wanted to give up. He had his days and yes he still does, but he always says the alternative is much worse.
Last night Ryan and I were going through some things I saved from that time in our life. Newspaper article on him, photos, cards and the emotions definitely crept back in and I started to think about how challenging this post will be to write. I had a dear friend remind me that everything that happened is in the past and to look at how far we have come, thats what matters. He was right. God definitely has a plan for each and everyone of us, Ryan's accident is apart of God's plan for him. We may not understand it but we just have to trust and have faith that there is a reason for it. Ryan has told me a few times that he wouldn't trade his life for anything. Our faith in God and support from our family and friends helped get us through it.
I had a few people ask me why I stayed and even Ryan told me to go find someone else so I wouldn't have to live this life. I was 22 when Ryan got hurt, he was 26, we were engaged and all I knew was that I loved him. You don't love someone because they can walk, you love them for who they are. I knew life would be different but I wasn't afraid of it. I knew that God had a plan for us. Ryan and I don't sit here in anticipation waiting for him to walk again or for there to be a cure for paralysis. We are just living life. We know that someday when we are called home to be with the good Lord, that God will heal us of all our pain and injuries. The bible teaches us this. Ryan will walk again, it just may not be on this earth.
Im not sure how I or our families managed to get through the hardship of Ryan's accident, I was in the process of trying to graduate from dental hygiene school and some days I know I was just trudging through, trusting that God would get all of us through it. We have wonderful parents who on the days we struggled were there to pick us up. My struggle was nothing compared to what Ryan went through. We know that if we didn't have our faith in God that we wouldn't have made it. So here we are 8 years later, happy, and healthy!
Have you ever wanted to try something that is just completely out there? Something that pushes you out of your comfort zone, or makes you so excited that you get slightly nauseous. Maybe its skydiving, or bunging jumping or something as simple as public speaking. Whatever it may be, do you have the guts to do it?
Your reason for doing it might be just as easy as saying, i did it, or wanting to have a possible once in a life time experience, or maybe you are the type of person that lives life each day as it could be your last. For me it was a milestone birthday, 30 to be exact. For Ryan it was doing something that was just out there, something he has never done before.
Eagle Hang Gliding out of Lake City, Minnesota was brought to my attention by a coworker who showed me a video of a local gal's experience. Instantly I knew I had to do this! I texted Ryan the link to the website and said I want to do this. Initially I think Ryan thought I was crazy, but to my surprise he said he wanted to do it to.
I called them up and spoke to Josh, one of the instructors. After I explained the situation about Ryan, Josh said he had instant chills and knew that he had to make this possible. He was so excited to meet Ryan and to be able to give him this experience. He said he would talk to the owner Dave and figure out how to make it happen. I later spoke to Dave and expressed my worries about how this would be possible with Ryan. Dave told me that he was used to being around people in wheelchairs his whole life and that one of his good friends was also paralyze so moving him would be know big deal. So the date was set for July 8th.
Friday morning came and we headed down to Lake City with our friend Carol, who also had a flight booked. They chose to take Ryan first and had a strategic plan on how to get the harness on him while in his wheelchair, getting him attached to the glider and everything that would entail. Before I knew it they were off and I found myself at the edge of the beach asking God to please bring my husband back safely. Once they got to the height of 2100 feet they released the cord that was attached from the glider to the boat and they were off, gliding. From that far away he looked like an Eagle flying in the sky. Soon enough he was down and a big smile on his face giving Carol and I a thumbs up! I was so proud of him for stepping outside of his comfort zone. The winds had really picked up so my flight along with Carol's got canceled. Mine was rescheduled for the following day in the morning.
Saturday was perfect, not a cloud in the sky, sunny and just a slight breeze. After the boat finished towing me up and they released the cord we were flying, What an incredible experience! To be up with the Eagles and see the beauty of the bluffs and Lake Pepin below. I was instant smiles! I was fortunate enough to even have a minute or two to be able to fly the glider myself.
Two years ago I took a trip to Vail, Colorado to visit my friend Kristie. She is the type of person that has that laid back personality, always having fun and always looking for adventures. That trip reignited my love for the outdoors. When I returned home I remember struggling with the fact that I may never have these types of experiences with a spouse in a wheelchair, or with a spouse who at the time was not willing to try new things. I was worried about my life, what it would be like. I knew very well when I married Ryan the things I would have to give up, but at the time it didn't seem to matter to me. Fortunately we were able to work through these issues and emotions and Ryan has changed his outlook on new experiences and I have realized that some experiences I will have to have on my own, but thankfully not all of them.
This experience was so amazing and even more amazing that I was able to do it with Ryan by my side. We even talked about how "walking" Ryan would have never done that. So would we recommend Eagle Hang Gliding, heck yes we would!! We even plan to eventually go again. Maybe hang gliding is to out there for you, but I encourage each and everyone of you to try something new or step outside your comfort zone. When you are pushed outside of your comfort zone thats when you learn more about yourself and when more experiences or opportunities open up. As for Ryan he learned that he is able to do more then what he thinks he can, and that he is able to have more experiences even while being paralyzed. For me I learned that risks can be a good thing and that God is answering my prayers when it comes to having new adventures and being able to do it with Ryan by my side. So here you go enjoy the pictures of our Eagle Hang Gliding experience! Im currently having some issues trying to upload our videos, so when I do I will sure post the links to them. The videos are worth seeing to get the full experience.
Well after dreaming about this for a long time and having Ryan listen to me over and over about wanting to start a blog its happening. Originally I wanted to start a blog about my love of fashion and slowly over time my thoughts went from fashion to just how Ryan and I live our every day life. Our life together has been interesting to say the least. We've struggled, man have we ever struggled. Between Ryan's accident, my accident, our 3 year struggle with IVF and bumps in our marriage we finally are at a point in life where we are actually living our life. The one change we made to finally start living our life was putting God first in our marriage. God has always been there but between our selfish ways and stubborn attitudes we lost sight of what truly matters in this life.
Yesterday was our 6 year wedding anniversary and to be honest we both weren't sure if we would actually make it to our 6 year anniversary, but by the grace of God, the love and support of family and friends we did! A verse we chose for our wedding day comes from the book of James 1 versus 2-4 and 12. James states; Consider it pure joy brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance . Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. These versus have played a huge roll in our life together, I'm grateful for our trials because we wouldn't be who are today with out them.
Life is hard, marriage is hard, you toss a wheelchair in the mix and it makes things even more challenging somedays, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. Ryan and I are big believers in that everything happens for a reason good or bad. Its how you handle those situations that make a difference. Part of the reason I wanted to start this blog and share our life with others is to get out more awareness about paralysis or people in wheelchairs. To hopefully be able to help others in a similar situation and just to show people that whatever life tosses at you, nothing is impossible. I have a husband who teaches me that every day. God only gives us this one life and we want to live it! For us and our so called "normal" life it may take more planning and organizing but the journey is what its all about.
So from time to time I'll be blogging about our adventures, big or small, good or bad, either way it should be fun or at least entertaining with Ryan by my side. And so it begins.....