This past Sunday Ryan and I attended church and our Pastor's sermon spoke to me so much that I wanted to share my thoughts. I love how God works in ways like this, when certain things are going on in your life and you go to church and boom, its like the sermon was directed right to you. Part of the sermon Pastor spoke about accountability and have those people in your life that keep you accountable. Those people that when they see you headed down the wrong path in life or drifting away from your faith or seeing negative changes in you they call you out on it. They keep you accountable. Pastor told a story about how he and his wife helped some friends move and how he had a moment where he spoke to his wife kinda harshly. His friend pulled him aside and in a nice way brought it to his attention on how he treated his wife. He said his first thought was to immediately be defensive but he gave it a minute and realized his friend was right.
Have you ever witnessed a moment like this. Maybe its how you see spouses treat each other or maybe its how a mother treats a child, or how a child speaks to their parent. Do you call them out on it. Society today tells you not to because you don't want to overstep boundaries or offend someone. God forbid we offend someone! Don't get me wrong I believe there is a time and a place to call someone out on something and definitely the manor in which you present it is important, but when did honesty stop being the best policy?
Pastor's sermon got me to thinking about the people that are in my life that have kept me accountable. The people that haven't been afraid to be honest with me or to call me out on my own behavior. I remember a moment when Ryan and I were in the midst of our struggles and a good friend called me out. His polite harshness was the moment that made me realize I wasn't being accountable for my own actions. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines accountability as this, the quality or state of being accountable, an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions. Im so thankful for those people in my life that chose to be honest with me that kept me accountable. Sometimes it takes an outsider to be the reflection in the mirror that you need when you know longer can see it yourself. When we see our friends or family members drifting off the right path sometimes keeping them accountable takes effort. They may push you away but I believe thats when they need help the most.
We teach children at a young age to be accountable for their actions so why do we not do that for adults? Taking accountability means admitting you made a mistake, punishment may result, especially as a kid, but accountability shows ownership and a willingness to admit mistakes, and there is nothing wrong with admitting that you made a mistake. Your true family and friends will love you know matter what mistakes you make and why will they continue to love you, well because know one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes don't define us, they teach us. So take a moment to think about the people in your life that keep you accountable, maybe reach out and thank them for it, or maybe its time to step up and be the one that keeps others accountable.
Thought I would toss in a sunset picture I took a few weeks ago, because who doesn't love sunsets, plus this is prettier to look at then the gloomy weather we have been having in Minnesota! :)